THe Weary Kind

The Weary Kind - Ryan Bingham

This music video goes along well with the song. The song talks about picking ones self up one last time from the whisky bottle and trying at your dream again. The video is very dark like most bars are it is difficult to make out details. The main character of the song is left travelling alone with his guitar adn is repeatedly shown preforming in different bars and waking up in dirty hotel rooms. The main character is shown drinking often and always looks unhappy. Until finally he picked himself up after what appeared to be a very rough night and was given another chance on the big stage and he made the most of it: sober. After this it shows him creating real relationships and being stable, and it flashes shots of his old one night stands relationships as the chorus is played again. The tools used to get the story and mood across in this music video is dark lighting, repetition, and plot.

TIB that facebook controls perception

Scariest adventure of my life: formal recruitment before my first semester in college. I would rather sit in a pit of snakes or cliff jump before I put myself through something like formal recruitment again. Now granted, I did make it through alive, barely, and I have joined a sorority, but I didn't realize that when I joined literally every aspect of my social media would be tracked and stalked to ensure that I am representing my sorority well. As my older sisters love to point out: I am always wearing my letters. 

In my sorority, because it is so old and based on traditions, there are many rules about what can and can not go up on my Facebook or any other aspect of social media. I am more aware now than I ever have been of what my Facebook says about me and I am a firm believer that social media, especially Facebook, controls how I am perceived. Facebook is now my first impression. 

            I “creep” on myself often, to ensure that my pictures, posts, and likes all reflect how I want to be perceived. I now think every time before I tweet or upload a photo: “will I be asked to discipline for this?” The rules are there for a reason, I don’t want the opinion first created of me or my sorority to be one of  partiers. I want my own Facebook and my sisters’ Facebooks to reflect our most appealing and respectable attributes. This is why my Facebook consists of photos of me going to church with my grandparents, fundraising with my sisters, or having fun at prom, but not after prom.

Coming out of high school I had a teacher that stressed the importance of keeping our social media clean, and I never put too much stock into what he was saying until after I joined Phi Mu. Now being on the other end of recruiting girls to join our sisterhood I see how often social media comes into play. To ensure we are getting good girls that won’t embarrass the sorority with bad language, attitude or party antics we often check their Facebooks and twitters.

I now know that no matter how terrible of a day I’m having tweeting just the F bomb will not reflect very well upon me, nor will those solo cup pictures that made you cool high school, or the skirts that are just short enough that when you sit down your undies peek out. People do look, and as funny as it was when the picture was taken it never should have been put on Facebook for your friends, family, future employers and even strangers to see. An opinion is made about you, and no matter how good of a person you really could be, all others see is that one drunken night you can’t defend because it has been posted for others to look at when you’re not around. Facebook is your first impression: don’t blow it. 

TIB step parents

I don't care a thing about being a step parent. I don't have any and I hope to never be one. I don't think anything she said proved anything about how hard being a step parent is, as she originally stated. And just to correct to her: you become a step parent by definition when you marry the original mom/dad. This essay was monotone and boring, I was honestly on facebook during the entire thing. There was nothing about this essay that appealed to me.

This I Believe "Every Person Deserves Respect"

After learning the the speaker was the Vice President of Google I was even more impressed by what he was talking about. Vint Cerf has been deemed the "father of the internet" he made insulting people anonymously an option, but his TIB essay really struck me. I myself do not handle disrespect well, whether it is me being disrespected  my friends, family or even a stranger I do not take it lightly. I strongly believe that no one person is better than any other. Vint Cerf said that he now strives to ask people about their stories so that he can always learn new things and after talking to a limo driver that was also a retired CEO he says he no longer looks at people working "below" him as sad or unfortunate. When I got my first minimum wage job I realized how much people judge others. I worked at Dairy Queen on the richer end of Louisville and these women would come in with their children in the middle of the day, while I'm sure their husbands were working, and they would be down right rude and disrespectful to my coworkers, my friends. I hated it, they didn't know anything about my coworkers, most of them worked harder than most people I knew and they certainly did not deserve that disrespect. To hear that such a rich and obviously smart man like Vint Cerf could also see that really makes me feel better about humans; however he was hard to listen to because his voice never changed, it was easier to read what he was saying than listen to it. I don't think that I would have been able to listen to it if I wasn't interested and connected to what he was speaking about.

Preparation outline

PREPARATION OUTLINE

TITLE OF SPEECH: __________________________________________________________

Be sure to label learning styles throughout.

Introduction

  I.        Attention Catcher: 

 II.       Listener Relevance Link: We all carry them to class...

III.       Speaker Credibility: I've had a laptop since i was 12 and I attended a laptop highschool 

IV.       Thesis Statement: without my laptop i would be disconnnected

 V.       Preview: I connect to friends, and find points to communicate with them about

Transition (optional):

Body

  I.        mobile internet/staying connected

            Listener Relevance Link: we bring laptops to class and on long trips

            A.  Subpoint: Social Media

                  1.  Sub-Subpoint: facebook, twitter, pinterest

                  2.  Sub-Subpoint: staying in touch, even though you were really never in touch
                  3.  Sub-Subpoint: skype with my boyfriend 

            B.  Subpoint: professors email and post grades online often, being sick isnt much of an excuse anymore

                  1.  Sub-Subpoint: emails back and forth between yo and your professor

                  2.  Sub-Subpoint:no more excuses for absences, or not knowing where your grade stands

Transition: thats not all im connected too 

II.        Pop culture

            Listener Relevance Link: its a common conversation point

         A. Subpoint:  News
                1. Sub-Subpint: Perezhilton.com to keep up on celebrity gossip
                2. Yahoo, MSN news online to quickly update on whats going on
         B.  Subpoint: Music

                  1.  Sub-Subpoint: pandora, mtv music videos, top 20 charts

           2.   Sub-Subpoint:itunes charts and downloads, lets you preview songs(just went crazy purchasing music)

            C.  Subpoint: Pictures: to satisfy my mom

                  1.  Sub-Subpoint: iphoto editor and collage makers

                  2.  Sub-Subpoint: my mom and friends can see how much I love college [Asher Roth + song]
           

Conclusion

  I.        Restatement of Thesis: my laptop keeps me connected

 II.       Summary of Main Points: I can see talk to everyone I miss, I'll have something to talk to them about

III.       Clincher: I couldn't live without my laptop

References

List the references you used in the speech. Format them according to MLA style (use your quick reference book).

Ignite speech outline

I couldn't imagine my life without my Laptop

I. Internet

• facebook, pinterest, and twitter
• skype with my boyfriend
• online shopping
• email

II. Schoolwork

• emails with professors
• this blog
• even math homework
• checking grades

III. music

• itunes
• downloading
• playlists and burn cds for jeep

IV. Pictures

• editing
• organizing in iPhoto

Power User

I still remember my brother making fun of me for having a Myspace in seventh grade when he came back from his junior year at the University of Kentucky in 2007. Everyone in college now had a Facebook and it was spreading to high school, but I was still in my middle school years, I was not even eligible for a Facebook I would have to lie to get one. So I did, I lied in eighth grade and made myself a Facebook, but I never used it and after a month I had already forgotten my password.

When I started my new private high school everyone had a Facebook and in order to connect with my peers I had to figure out my password again. When I got on my Facebook for the first time in over a year and had almost thirty friend requests for me I got my first taste of being what Margaret Weigal calls in her article a “power user:” I was constantly commenting, posting, interacting on Facebook trying to ensure that I always has a notification waiting for me to check and admittedly, as much as you may judge me, I would even get excited about my virtual farm notifications. People had added me on Facebook that I had not even met at my tiny school yet; it was exhilarating, I wanted more notifications; no I needed more notifications.  That was when I decided that I had to become more popular on Facebook and I added everyone in my school because Facebook made it so easy to connect with people I had never spoken to, only seen their faces.

 

I began to comment or like almost everything that appeared on my news feed in hopes that it would make people feel that they could do the same to me without it being weird. Then a new problem arose so many people had more pictures than I did, who would want to comment on my stuff when I am obviously not very popular? Once again Facebook created another obsession: taking pictures every time I was with my friends, even at school. I always tagged myself so that my number would go up and people would see that I am very popular and my profile picture was always with my friends and as terrible as it sounds I always had to look prettier than my friend in the picture.

 

I was also the obnoxious Facebook girl that, in order to seem more popular, always wrote on someone’s wall when I just as easily could have texted them about plans for the evening. When my friends commented on my pictures I would have full-blown conversations with them on the comments so that my picture was sure to pop up on everyone’s news feed. Facebook used to be the only way I had friends, and then I started having a relationship and again I formed a new obsession.

Facebook relationships or being “FBO” is a very important thing. You are not in a relationship unless Facebook says you are and there is at least three photos of you and your significant other together. Jonathan Harwood wrote an article that stated according to an American law firm one in five of their clients listed Facebook in their petitions for divorce; being in a long distance college relationship I can see why. It is hard seeing photos of my boyfriend up on Facebook with other people and girls, it is even harder seeing that he is having fun without me, even though I am doing the same thing.

I have now actively used my Facebook for over four years and I don not care how many pictures I have up and I can not remember the last time I changed my status, but I can tell you what all of my friends did the night before. I have become an expert Facebook “creeper.” I joined a sorority this year and I now creepily know everything about all of my sisters because as soon as I was added to the Facebook Phi Mu group I went through and added almost every girl on Facebook. I am also the girl that thinks she may know someone walking by because I have seen them before, but really I only know them through Facebook.

 

The Facebook group made for the University of Kentucky really brought me closer to all of my peers that are freshman as well this year; they just do not know it. I see people walking around campus and I can tell you their name, hometown and whether or not they party or are close to their family. Facebook makes my problem with obsessing over details so much worse; I forget nothing about people.

My mother recently made a Facebook and she is now going through the same stages I went through, where she has to have notifications and is required to comment on everything and upload a picture of everything she or her children (meaning me) do. It is frustrating for me because I hate how she has to upload pictures every night to Facebook when we go on trips or how she has to get on Facebook when we are spending time with my grandparents, but I have to realize it is not her fault. Facebook does this to you, and eventually she will see how silly she is being.

I see now how silly and just immature I was being about Facebook. Even now my obsession has not really changed, I check my news feed on my phone all the time, and get upset when people haven’t uploaded photos to entertain me. Having to write all of this down just makes me feel even worse, now everyone can see how pathetic this problem is, but it is not my fault Facebook pulled me and has molded me into this creepy person that sits behind a computer screen and observes, but as sad as it is and as sad as it sounds I do not think I will stop. I know I do not want to so I will let my obsession continue to progress throughout it’s stages and perhaps eventually the obsession will dwindle away to nothingness.